Whew! What a few months it has been.... In month four of Danelle's pregnancy we had some weird things occur that led us to investigate her a bit more thoroughly. I would call Danelle to check in with her, and she would be asleep until 1 or 2 pm each and every day- and sounded so bitchy and out of it whenever we spoke. Often times, I would call her home phone and a random guy would answer, telling me that Danelle wasn't home (at 10pm!!) even though I could hear her two boys crying in the background. Eventually, I called again and some guy asked me if I wanted to come over to her house to party.... I talked with my family about the experiences and one person brought up drug use. I was so desperate to believe that it wasn't true, that I put it out of my mind for some time. Eventually, Felix and I agreed that we needed to know- especially if it was something far worse than we expected. Because Danelle had signed over Medical Power of Attorney I called her physician and explained my concerns and asked for a random drug test. Three days later we heard back- positive for methamphetamine, marijuana, alcohol and nicotine. I was heartbroken! After researching possible complications and speaking with the doctor, we agreed to back out of the adoption process- it broke our hearts, but it felt like the right thing to do at the time. We went to Danelle's house to tell her in person. She was IRATE! She couldn't believe that the doctor would tell us, as it was her private information. She threatened to sue the doctor. Over and over again, I simply asked- "Is it true?" And she never denied it.... We told her it would be best if she found another family to adopt her child. She called us later that day, asking if we really wanted to back out, as she had found another family, but she didn't like them as much. We again emphasized that we didn't want to proceed. I moped for WEEKS! I never really felt like I would get over this....
Fast forward two months, and we decided to reconsider. We've hoped and prayed, talked and thought and this really is a blessing- one we're so thankful for! So, in January we'll be the proud parents of.... wait for it.... a baby girl!!!
The next doctor's appointment will be on October 10th. We're so excited, nervous and anxious- there is just so much left to do- we have to paint, decorate, stock up on diapers, buy a bed set, etc. Who knew that picking a car seat could be more difficult than picking out a wedding dress?!? As much as I complain, I'm really filled with bliss and feel quite lucky and blessed to be able to whine about these things. It is like finally being part of a club that I've heard so much about. I'm having dinner with Danelle's sister and family tomorrow evening- it's almost like a blind date- I'm nervous as a school girl! I'll keep you updated. Signing off for now...
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