Marchese Family

Gavin was born in January 2010, a seemingly healthy 6+ pound baby boy. He took us by surprise a bit, as we had only been on the "waiting list" for 2 weeks! Gavin had rough beginnings- formula allergies, chronic fussiness, frequent ear infections, and finally diagnoses: Cerebral Palsy, Eosinophilic Esophagitis, and severe Sensory Processing Disorder. You'd never know these days! He's symptom free of CP and in remission of EoE! His SPD continues to give us a wild ride, but there's no sweeter boy than mine to make the journey with!

Special Needs Thoughts...

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

-Emily Perl Kinglsey

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

We made it to Stanford!! We also went a on Grace's wish trip, but since I'm typing this from out of state, I'll post wish trip details when we get home.

Yesterday Grace had a heart cath with Dr. Perry. The cath lasted about 3 hours. Here's the info for surgery that will take place Thursday with Dr. Frank Hanley.

Dissection is planned to take 2-4 hours. They'll dissect a bit more than originally planned to be able to get to her upper lobe and outlying PA's. Conduit change as planned, hopefully 15mm or bigger. She has a 12mm now. 14 or bigger makes her qualify for the melody valve in the future if her valve fails but conduit still open.

Cath showed that her upper left lung lobe has no blood low. Lung perfusion test completed to see more in depth. Still no results. Unsure if upper lobe of left lung hasn't had flow long-term, or if this is a recent issue. The degree to which the lobe and arteries are damaged will give them an idea of timeline.. If Dr. Hanley is able to find a viable artery it's possible he can rehab and restore. Unfortunately, upper lobe on right has severe stenosis and is headed to the same plight. Thankfully, Hanley can rehab and fix, and also ensure no future lobe flow loss since he is somewhat of a pioneer in this situation.

The PA's are quite close to the Frenetic nerve. If the frenetic nerve is messed with, it causes a diaphragm issue. We won't know if there is an issue until extubation, and will be apparent if she struggles with breathing. Apparently, the frenetic nerve controls the up and down mechanism of the diaphragm, so the issue is that the diaphragm could be "stuck" in the up position, requiring another small surgery to stitch the diaphragm down.

Each PA repair takes about an hour and the conduit change also takes about an hour. Actual operation time will be 6-8 hours, but we won't see her for probably 10ish. Bypass time is expected to last 3 hours, and goal is to keep heart beating, since the VSD fenestration healed itself.

There is a concern about chylothorax since she's had it twice before. If it happens, well wait until she dries up. I asked about the JP drain that PCH sent us home with in the past only to receive stares. Their response? It's not in our medical practice safety guidelines to do that.

Also asked why we didn't know about the lobe flow issue before. Their politically correct reply? PCH probably only sees surgeries with her complexities maybe a few times a year, Hanley sees this several times a week. Its his life's specialty- he knows EXACTLY what to look for. I feel so comfortable with my decision to come here. Only upset I didn't know before birth so we could have avoided some of the complications that we've seen since operating at Phoenix Children's.

Grace is now running a low grade temp, I'm assuming because of anesthesia? Also now super junkie because of being intubated. Worried that surgery could be affected... Pray for health.

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